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If you have a spouse that struggles with pornography and/or other sexual addiction behaviors, it’s virtually certain that at some point along the way you have been the victim of “gaslighting.”

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where false, deceitful or manipulative information is presented, usually repeatedly, as “true” causing the victimized spouse to doubt her feelings, judgment, reality and even her own sanity. The porn/sex addict uses this tactic to hide the truth about his hidden betrayal and secret promiscuous behaviors.

The term gaslighting comes from the 1944 film Gaslight in which a husband convinces his wife that the periodic dimming of their home’s gaslights is all in her imagination. Over time, his lies cause her to question her own sanity.

Porn/sex addicts often use gaslighting as a way of manipulating their loved ones into going along with or ignoring their addiction. They often lie to their spouses/partners for years, insisting that they really did need to work late, that they’re not being emotionally distant or moody, that they’re not viewing porn or cheating. The addict twists and manipulates until all fingers are pointing at the victimized spouse as just being paranoid and unfair.

Here’s a link to a site with a clear and concise message regarding gaslighting and pornography addiction.

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